Will they meet in heaven?

I came across an interesting question on a community on orkut a few days ago.

A brother narrated the story of a boy and a girl, where the boy and girl had never met but only talked online or on sms. The girl got married somewhere else but when she learned through someone that the boy is contemplating suicide she contacted him and said that she loves him and believes they will be together in heaven. If the boy would commit suicide now he would go to hell and would never meet the girl again so he stopped. Sometime afterward, he heard from someone that husband and wife in this world will be together in heaven too according to Islam. Knowing little about Islam, the boy didnt know whether to believe this or not, but he thought that if this were true, and he cannot be with his beloved in heaven, then the torture of being without her in this life will continue for eternity. What then would be the difference between heaven and hell for him?
The narrator of the story was asking people on an Islamic community on orkut whether there is something like this in the Quran or Hadith and said that its a "life and death" situation, saying that the boy is contemplating suicide again after this.
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Thats the story, maybe hypothetical, maybe real. Who knows. But im sure such people do exist. And therefore I am expressing my views and a solution to this problem too.

Firstly, lets look at the concept of heaven.
Heaven by definition is a place so grand and so awesome that it cannot be properly defined in words or even thought about. We as humans, make images in our minds based on our experiences. Can a person imagine a place that he/she truly cannot understand? Such a place demands by definition that everything over there will be nothing like anything that exists in our realities. We can only talk about this place in vague comparisons and metaphors like "milk flowing in rivers" showing infinite supply of nutrition, "sitting areas set in magnificent gardens" showing that this place will be glorious in its beauty and feelings the feelings of tranquility we get around nature will be abundant.

One can debate whether people will be in their earthly bodies or in spiritual forms. But whatever form, it is said that we will know the things we cannot know in the world and live the way we cannot live here. So, maybe we wont have to eat to stay well, maybe we wont need to enjoy food as it might be something too small in comparison to other abundant sources of enjoyment. Maybe the animal-instinct of attraction to mates we feel here will be something "childish" over there when our consciousness will rise to its infinite capacity.

Like when a child cries for a specific toy, maybe a rubber duck. If the child doesn't get that duck, and he still remembers this till when he grows up, do you think the grown man will go and buy a rubber duck because he couldn't have it when he was younger? When he was a child, you could offer him anything, no matter how many times better than the duck, the child loved the duck and wouldn't accept any other replacement. But the grown man, does not have that affection for the duck, maybe he wants to buy a car, or a watch, or a house, or something for his wife.

The rubber duck example might appear odd. You might be thinking "what the hell does this have to do with the topic". Everything. It has everything to do with the topic. Ill show you how:

- The boy who wants to commit suicide is like the little child who is crying for the rubber duck.
- His love for the girl is like the affection the child has for the rubber duck.
- Leading a normal life and getting rewarded with heaven and living happily in heaven is like the child growing up into a successful man.

and now.... the conclusion of the comparison,
- The grown man prefers other things over the rubber duck. Now if he ever thinks about that duck, he laughs at himself about how he cried for something which wasn't important at all in reality. In this new reality where he has other things to worry about, and other pleasures in life, he doesn't remember the duck and lives a perfect life without it. Even having it now would mean nothing to him. You can easily guess how this translates to the scenario of the suicidal boy.


The problem is that many of us don't think we will grow up, we think that the things important to us (even the people) will continue to have the same important and place in our hearts and minds even after this life. Try telling the child that he will not need the rubber duck when he grown up and he is sure to continue crying. Similarly, unless he start believing that the life hereafter is not a 2nd installment of this life but something totally different, we would continue to feel incomplete everything we fail to achieve anything, or be with someone or do something we want.

Personally, id like to think that those of us who have happy and fulfilling marriages will be with our spouses in heaven and those who don't will find other spouses, but maybe such relationships wont appeal to us anymore in heaven.

Let us think what we need to do in order to have a better chance of being in the blessed ones on teh day of judgment instead of dwelling on the failures in this temporary life.